Embracing the Holidays: Preparing for a Joyful Season
by FAU CARD | Tuesday, Nov 21, 2023
According to all the movies and TV specials and ads, the holiday season should be a time of unadulterated peace, joy and togetherness. But we all know the holidays can be a stressful time as well. Here are some tips to make the holiday season less stressful and more joyous for ourselves and our autistic family members.
Create a Comfortable Environment
Tailor your home to address your family member’s sensory needs. Consider opting for soft, calming lighting instead of intense, flashing decorations. Control the volume of music, TV and movies, and avoid decor elements that have loud, sudden or repetitive sounds. If you are hosting a gathering, designate a quiet space where an autistic child or adult can retreat if the festivities become too stimulating.
When attending events, let hosts or family members know that your autistic family member may need scheduled breaks or quiet times, and ask if there is a place where they can regroup. Don’t hesitate to cut visits short or pass on invitations to events that cannot accommodate your family member’s needs.
Create Regular Routines
Routine is a stabilizing force for most individuals with autism. Whether it's a daily walk or their regular bedtime routine, preserving these rituals helps provide a sense of security during the festivities.
Try to create a daily visual schedule for the holidays with familiar activities as well as including special holiday plans. ( A visual schedule can be a picture schedule or a checklist, depending on your family member’s needs, and gives them a tangible way to know what is coming next.) Clearly communicate any schedule changes in advance.
Create Engaging and Inclusive Celebrations
Inclusive celebrations are the cornerstone of a joyous holiday experience for persons with autism. Look for games or craft stations that everyone can enjoy and participate in, that take into consideration the special interests and communication, sensory and attention needs of your family member with ASD. Ideas might include holiday bingo, making simple decorations, making or decorating cookies or holiday karaoke.
When giving gifts, consider some items that may help your family member with autism relax and stay engaged during celebrations. Books, toys or puzzles that incorporate your family member’s special interests and items that help manage sensory overload (headphones, calming music, a cozy stuffed animal or blanket) may help them better tolerate and enjoy the festivities.
Celebrating the holidays with individuals with autism requires thoughtfulness, flexibility, and a commitment to inclusivity. By maintaining routines, addressing sensory needs, and planning activities that all can participate in at their own level, we can ensure that everyone, regardless of their unique needs, can partake in the holiday magic.