Anger
Anger is a feeling or emotion and may range from mild irritation to intense fury to rage. 

• Normal reaction to trauma
• Can hurt relationships
• Make it difficult to think clearly
• Can be frightening
• If it leads to violent behavior or abuse, its dangerous
• Go to a safe place and call for help right away
• Make sure children are in a safe place as well
  

Anger Management

• Set-up a time out system
• Think calmly about how you will talk things over and solve the problem
• Take turns talking about solutions to the problem
• Listen without interrupting
• Use “I” statements
• Be open to each other’s ideas
• Don’t criticize
• Focus on things you both think will work
• Together agree which solutions you will use
• Be clear and to the point
• Be positive
• Be a good listener
• Put your feelings into words
• Help your family member put feelings into words
• Ask how you can help
• Don’t give advice unless you are asked
• For more information on Anger and Anger Management go to:  www.afterdeployment.org, and look for the anger prompt on the menu.